Nymphet

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Note: For the kawaii Japanese fashion unaffiliated with the novel, see Lolita. For the 2020 "off duty model Heroin Chic ballet student" aesthetic, see Waif. For the "light pink florals and milkmaid blouses" fashion aesthetic, see Dollette. For other aesthetics with the name "coquette," "nymphet," "dollette," etc, see the category Coquette.

Nymphet, also sometimes referred to as Coquette or Vintage Americana Coquette, is an aesthetic based on a character trope originated by Vladimir Nabokov in his book Lolita, published in 1955 and its movie adaptations from 1962 and 1997. Nymphet is an illusion created in the mind of Humbert Humbert, the (unreliable) main character and narrator of both the films and book. The term means "sexually precocious young girl," and was used by Humbert as a way to justify his predatory actions towards 12 year old Dolores Haze, his victim.

Through a series of misunderstandings about the character type, a Lolita or nymphet was thought to be a young woman who purposefully pursues and manipulates older men into sexual situations, making them practically opposite of Nabokov's original intentions of depicting the character Dolores as a victim. This type of teenaged girl depicted is always sexually attractive and seduces men via plausibly deniable flirtations, hence Humbert's use of "coquette." These girls (in fiction, reality, and in the girls' fantasies) do so because of a genuine sexual/romantic attraction for older men, the security of being taken care of by an adult, the thrill of breaking taboos, the desire for power over someone, gifts from sugar daddies, being admired for being attractive, etc. According to Humbert, a Nymphet was a young girl between 9 and 14 years old, however most people who use the term Nymphet do not romanticize pedophilia(or hebephilia) and instead are into consensual age gap relationships between adults.

By around 2014, on Tumblr, young women took on this trope for themselves, as in addition to the reasons above, it was an aesthetic surrounding femininity, tragedy, and burgeoning sexuality. Contemporary pop culture involved a lot of content relating to teenaged girls' shedding of childhood and being involved with risqué behavior, with it both being highly romantic and exciting but also traumatizing and dangerous. Tragic love, new sexual experiences, rebellion, drug use, toxic relationships, intense friendships, and self-destructive behaviors are some common motifs. Lana del Rey and her album Born to Die is a main inspiration in the aesthetic that depicts these.

However, other young women are also against the sexualization of Nymphet and have created a community, often called NoKinkNymphet, that rejects the sexual darkness of the character type and instead simply appreciates the lighthearted, feminine aesthetic. Other Nymphets also use the aesthetic as a way to cope with childhood sexual assault, daddy issues, etc. This can be through either identifying with Dolores and her trauma, which is in line with the novel, or through self-destructive hypersexuality.

History[]

Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov was published in 1955 to much controversy; some publications demeaned it and the novel was banned in multiple countries. The book's status as a classic required different publishers to find new ways of conveying the premise of the novel. Shari L. Savage's Lolita: Genealogy of a Cover Girl, an examination of book cover design, lists the common visuals that the designers use, the vast majority of which overlap with visuals that nymphet aesthetic bloggers reblog today.

In 1962, Stanley Kubrick adapted the book for film. On the film poster are the two most iconic symbols of the character to this day: heart-shaped sunglasses and a red lollipop.

The 1997 adaptation by Adrian Lyne provided inspiration for most, if not all, fashion points. Milkmaid braids, sailor collars, retro swimsuits, and the color palette are all clear connections between the modern nymphet community's fashion style and the film.

The work that arguably introduced young women to the archetype and aesthetic of Nymphet was Lana del Rey's album Born to Die (2012). She references Nabokov's prose, women having sex with older men, visuals from the films, being sexually attractive at a young age, and having a party-loving lifestyle^[1].

In the same year, Marina and the Diamonds released Electra Heart, which explores feminine archetypes such as the prom queen and housewife and touches on motifs of sexuality, teenage girlhood, and the carefree yet vulnerable personality type that those with nymphet aesthetics can relate to.^[2] These two albums being released at around the same time made the two artists' listeners aware of, and yearn for, this sort of persona.

Lana_Del_Rey_-_This_is_What_Makes_Us_Girls_(Demo)_(Music_Video) — Lana Del Rey - This is What Makes Us Girls (Demo) (Music Video)

An example of a fanmade music video made by the Lana del Rey fandom on YouTube

Tumblr was the de facto website for this subculture to gather during this era. These young women are always Lana del Rey fans, with her lyrics and song titles often being usernames, Tumblr blog headings, captions under photographs, turned into typography images, etc. The fans of Lana de Rey also often made music video edits where they splice together muted clips of movies involving teenaged girls acting flirtatious. Lana herself utilized visual imagery and lyrical references to films and cultural references from the past. This introduced many people to the movies that often appear as gifs and screenshots on Tumblr.

These young women on tumblr would also often post selfies and pictures of their rooms, outfits, daily life, etc. that reflected the lifestyle of being a Nymphet. For example, a blogger could post a gingham outfit and describe in her caption her date with an older man. A few bloggers became quite notable in the community because of this, with their images being riffed on or have their lifestyles aspired to.

Information in this community was also spread by guides, often in now-lost tumblr posts or in Wattpad articles. These guides would describe the clothing a Nymphet should have, the process of finding an older man to date, films to watch, etc. However, the community also discussed the ethics of being a Nymphet through tumblr text posts and asks. This was called "discourse," the term on tumblr for wide-scale debate within a community surrounding the ethics of an activity or person.

With some people disagreeing with the ethics of being a Nymphet, NoKinkNymphet, mostly led by the influencer Schyler Reign, became a faction. In this opinion, Nymphet is simply a fashion style, with this part of the community reading Lolita and analyzing the motifs of abuse throughout the novel.

Much of the fashion was influenced by Larme Magazine, a Japanese girly fashion magazine catered to women in their early 20s. The editors had multiple shoots themed after Lolita and its movie adaptations, leading to the fashion gaining a following in Japan despite the lack of interaction with the mostly American tumblr community. The American tumblr community was able to access some scans of the magazine, reinforcing the fashion with the magazine's style ending up in Nymphet guides.

The culture diminished heavily during the Tumblr Purge in December 2018, which specifically happened because of the presence of child pornography on the site^[3]. Because some Nymphet bloggers had NSFW images, gifs, and discussion, most users in the aesthetic had their blogs taken away by the administrators. Some creators included were underaged while making suggestive photos (see visuals) and were messaging with older men who specifically targeted the Nymphet community, which explains the controversy surrounding this tag. Because of this, tags for lolita and nymphet showed no results, causing the community to go by many other names, such as coquette, doelette, nympet, loleeta, etc.

However, as social media gained a greater interest in aesthetics, Tumblr aesthetics from 2014 were revisited by 2020 teenagers on platforms such as Pinterest and Tiktok, as well as some new Tumblr users. Nymphet then morphed into coquette, which has less of an emphasis on the novel, being attracted to older men, and Americana visual motifs. After coquette became popularized as the term for a light pink, floral, and lacy aesthetic, this aesthetic is now often referred as "Vintage Americana Coquette."

Philosophy[]

The Nymphet aesthetic is a synthesis of the two "ideals" of femininity and stages of life: girlhood and sexual maturity. Rather than choosing to be childish and innocent or mature and sexy, this aesthetic combines the two so young women can both enjoy these symbols of youth while still enjoying the new marks of adulthood (romantic relationships, sex, alcohol, etc.) In a way, this aesthetic celebrates adolescence as its own period of life seperate from both childhood and adulthood.

Many young women in the Nymphet use the aesthetic and community to explore their sexuality. Teenaged girls can be genuinely attracted to older men and fantasize about "being" Dolores, except with them being consensually in the relationship. Their attraction often overlaps with BDSM and DDLG, as the difference in ages is often an expression of sexual submission. Sometimes this desire is non-sexual and represents the desire for a father figure in one’s life. This desire for an age-gap relationship is not discussed in the average teen-sphere or is told through the lens of the man, rather than the woman, so this community fills this need.

Nymphets may also desire being a "sugar baby," which is a person who enters a sexual and/or romantic relationship with a person who would spend money on the sugar baby. Young women would genuinely enjoy being with an adult man for this reason, as they tend to be wealthier and more desperate to maintain the affection of a beautiful girl. In fact, many tumblr posts are of a blogger showing purses, makeup, etc. that her sugar daddy (who may or may not be real) bought for her.

This point is related to the desire to manipulate men. Because teenaged girls are often seen as naive and stupid, these girls would use looks and sexuality to hold leverage over older men, who would be more powerful than them societally. This is why being sexy is empowering for some women. When they flirt, they bewitch desperate men, who would be "victims" of a manipulative and intelligent teen. Some movies also reference using the age gap as blackmail material, with the young girl falsely claiming rape in order to ensure the man would not leave. The archetype of a vampish teenager is the main interpretation of the "Lolita" archetype, with the name being used in pop culture when referring to a sexual young criminal girl.

Part of the Nymphet/coquette community is also a group of POC women, mostly black women, who use the aesthetic to reclaim their girlhood. Because black and brown women are seen as more masculine, adult, and "ghetto," there is not a cultural expectation of traditionally white feminine traits like being delicate and slyly flirtatious. So, POC women may live out the Nymphet/coquette fantasy and where the fashion to live out the American teenaged girlhood that was often denied to them.

Visuals[]

Nymphet visuals focus heavily on adolescence and the gateway between childhood and adulthood. Typically, the blogs that express the Nymphet aesthetic combine girly and child-like or innocent motifs with mature and sexual ones. So, Tumblr blogs and Pinterest boards have images from the Kawaii, Delicate Sweet, and Morute aesthetics as well as ones from the Femme Fatale aesthetic. The photos themselves often include the combination of the two in fashion (see below), the combination of different connotative items, and the use of color.

The most prominent visuals are the ones associated with the film and cover art of the books: the heart-shaped sunglasses and red lollipop. The film posters, promotional materals, CDs, etc. were often shared on Tumblr blogs, especially if they were limited runs. Of course, GIFs from the movies were also popular, with some popular ones being Dolores looking over her sunglasses, reading in the sprinklers, dancing, etc.

Another component of this aesthetic is images of young, beautiful girls, often actresses from movies. There is a large range of emotions, such as dreamily smiling, enraged at her older boyfriend, and most popularly, delicately crying. Physical attractiveness is a focus in this aesthetic, with a preference for the traditionally feminine and "cute" girlish look. Traits like large eyes, pink lips, natural makeup, and button noses are some common features.

1950s teenaged girl culture is a large influence on the community. The trends and iconography of that time include saddle shoes, shiny red vintage cars, and diner milkshakes, which are some of the most common photo subjects in the aesthetic. This is because the novel itself takes place in the 1950s, with the film adaptations retaining the aesthetic of the time period.

1950s culture, as well as Lana del Rey's own use of Americana also led to these motifs being included in the aesthetic. Photos with the American flag, cherry pie, and environments that are distinctly American (motels, freeways, suburbia, etc.) are the settings of many photos. Sophia Coppola's adaptation of The Virgin Suicides contributes to this as well, as she interprets a romantically tragic view on 1970s suburban living.

Because of the admiration for vintage American culture, as well as there being more explicitly feminine characters, Nymphets often post screencaps of flirtatious women in retro movies. Often, they show famous actresses saying cheeky and flirtatious lines, kissing, or being in love. Many other movies which depicts the sexual nature of teenaged girls (see in the media section below) were also shared.

With Lana del Rey's influence was her use of cigarettes and alcohol in images. For example, images of Marlboro Reds, whipped cream vodka, and heart-shaped cocaine lines can be on blogs. She, as well as characters in related films, often smoke and drink as a representation of a hedonistic and glamorous life to contrast the youth of the young girl.

Cherries, specifically maraschino cherries, are one of the most iconic images associated with the nymphet aesthetic due to their connotations with innocent femininity, nostalgia, and sexuality. Its symbolic meaning can be traced back to 17th century literature, and its use in American pop music, slang, and party tricks (tying a knot in the mouth) cemented it as representative of adolescent sexuality.^[4]

Imagery associated with the mouth in general is very popular. In the novel, Humbert Humbert often fixates on Dolores's mouth in a sexual manner. The cover for the Knopf edition of Lolita also features a close-up of the corner of a girl's mouth. Lips, blowing bubblegum, lip cosmetics, and images of biting down on food or flowers is thus one of the most featured things in moodboards and blogs.

Explicitly sexual imagery is also posted by some bloggers who are more interested in this aspect of the aesthetic. Specifically, kissing, groping, and BDSM imagery between younger women and older men can appear on blogs. Also, cropped images of bodies such as waists, around the hips in a short skirt, etc. are often posted. A less explicit motif is lingerie, both worn and unworn, and in youthful and feminine styles and colors.

For citation and more examples of the aesthetic, see the Wayback Machine record for the Nymphet aesthetic.

Fashion[]

Note: This fashion should not be confused with Lolita fashion, a Japanese street fashion that is heavily inspired by Rococo and Victorian era clothing, which has entirely different rules and mentality behind it, and is no way related to Nabokov's "Lolita", despite sharing its name.

Common patterns involved in this aesthetic are gingham, plaid, cherry print, and swiss dot. Their associations with vintage fashion and schoolgirl life is explained in the visuals section.

Face and Makeup[]

Clean, dewy skin
Rosy cheeks
Highlighter to achieve soft glow
Pastel and shimmery eyeshadows
Long eyelashes
Red lipstick
Glittery and sheer glosses in pink, red or peachy tones

Hair[]

Long natural hair
Braids
Soft waves and curls
Milkmaid braids
Pigtails
"Donut"/looped braids

Clothing[]

Sundresses
Rompers
Tennis skirts
High-waisted shorts
Cropped tops
Plaid/floral/cherry patterns
Thigh-high and knee-high socks
Mary Jane shoes
Sandals
Red/white/pink/baby blue clothes
Bralettes
Preppy clothes
Clothing with lace

Accessories[]

Heart-shaped sunglasses
Ribbons/bows/hairbands/cute hair accessories in general
Cute, soft necklaces
Delicate chokers
Small earrings
Lollipops
Vintage backpacks
Stockings and cute socks
Bubblegum and candies
Cherries or strawberries

Media[]

Movies[]

Lolita (1962), (1997)
Leon the Professional (1994)
American Beauty (1999)
The Crush (1993)
Pretty Baby (1978)
Breezy (1973)
Blue Lagoon (1980)
Lilya 4-Ever (2002)
Thirteen (2003)
Hick (2011)
Copenhagen (2014)
The Diary of a Teenage Girl (2015)
Jeune et Jolie (2013)
The Lover (1992)
Freeway (1996)
All the Right Noises (1970)
Poison Ivy (1992)
Blame (2017)
The Virgin Suicides (1999)

Music[]

"Lolita", "Put Me in a Movie", "Off to the Races", "Carmen", "Yayo", "Cola", "Gods & Monsters" - Lana Del Rey
"My Heart Belongs to Daddy" "Every Baby Needs a Da Da Daddy" - Marilyn Monroe
"Guys My Age" - Hey Violet
"You're Sixteen" - Ringo Starr
"Lolita" - Knee High Fox
"Moi... Lolita" - Alizee
"Girls In Their Summer Clothes" - Bruce Springsteen
"Seventeen" - Ladytron
"Teacher's Pet" - Melanie Martinez
"Bang Bang Bang Bang" - Sohodolls
"I'm His Girl" - Friends
“Miss Americana & The Heartbreak Prince”- Taylor Swift
“Sullen Girl” “Criminal”- Fiona Apple
“American Teenager” “Gibson Girl”- Ethel Cain

Activities[]

Baking or cooking for one's friends or family
Chewing bubblegum
Dancing, particularly in a modern or lyrical style
Eating fruits and certain sweets
Fashion or shopping at thrift stores
Going to parties
Maintaining a carefree and childlike demeanor
Painting one's nails in bright, girlish colors
Risqué party games such as spin-the-bottle or seven minutes in heaven (played straight)
Rollerskating, running or riding a bicycle
Writing physical letters with paper and pen

Subgenres[]

Faunlet[]

Faunlet is the male equivalent to a Nymphet. The main inspirations for the aesthetic are Tadzio from the 1971 adaptation of Death in Venice, Leonardo DiCaprio and vintage boys clothes, especially sailor clothes and woodland themes and colours.

The Faunlet aesthetic does seem to have more of a following in the LGBTQ community than in heterosexual circles. Straight members of the Faunlet community do exist, though it's nowhere near as common.

Japanese Nymphet[]

This section is under construction

Japanese Nymphet differs from the rest of the article because rather than it being a community and quasi-identity, the Nymphet aesthetic there is exclusively based on fashion that is based on the costume design of the two Lolita movies.

To clarify a common misconception, Japanese Nymphet is not the same as Lolita (ロリィタ) fashion. Lolita, the Victorian-inspired Japanese fashion style, has zero relation to Nymphet/Coquette despite sharing the name of the book. Japanese Nymphet has however, influenced some girly fashion aesthetics such as Larme Kei.

Criticism[]

The aesthetic mostly garners criticism about minors who use the aesthetic and may end up in sexual encounters because of it. The aesthetic's use of age dominance, BDSM references, and the book that is its inspiration have been cited as promoting pedophilia of adult men to young girls. As previously discussed, older men often groomed girls who identified with the aesthetic by private messaging them.

The young girls themselves may also gain mental illnesses despite a lack of actual grooming from men. For example, this community romanticizes hypersexuality, manipulation, and recklessness in dangerous situations. Having a larger community that may be lying about events happening in their lives normalizes this behavior.

This community also overlapped with the pro-Ana/thinspo community at this time. Pro-Ana/thinspo is a community where people promote eating disorders and prioritize thinness and being beautiful over health. The Nymphet archetype encourages this, as young women would want to fit into the image of being a little girl, who is smaller. Thin bodies are the ideal in the community, as the most shared images were of thigh gaps, prominent shoulder blades, and other body checks, which are noticeable signs of thinness that people with eating disorders find on themselves. Many times, Nymphet blogs would also have a pro-Ana blog on the side, with many people who are anti-eating disorder nymphets posting call-out posts for such behavior.

There is also a lack of representation in the aesthetic, as pointed out by POC Nymphets. Like other traditionally feminine aesthetics, the vast majority of photos that are viral are of white girls with features tied to whiteness. Many Nymphets in the community also harassed black Nymphets, saying they do not fit the aesthetic because of their bodies, for example.